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What if I am afraid of someone I Love?

Do you feel like you are “walking on eggshells” around your partner?  Does your relationship fell like an “emotional rollercoaster”?  Would you describe your partner as a “Jekyll and Hyde”?  Many victims of domestic abuse use these phrases to describe their experiences.  The following list was designed to help you evaluate the level of abuse you are experiencing or have experienced in a relationship.  It includes emotional, financial, sexual and physical abuse.

Does your partner:

· Frequently blame or criticize you or your family?

· Blame you for “causing” the abuse?

· Abuse animals?

· Keep you from doing things you want to do, like seeing your family and friends, or going to work/or school?

· Withhold approval, affection or sex?

· Threaten to have you deported?

· Get angry if something is not done to his/her liking or if you pay attention to something or someone else?

· Not allow you to sleep?

· Take away money, car keys or credit cards?

· Threaten to leave or tell you to leave?

· Spread rumors about you or tell people you are crazy?

· Frequently check up on you?

· Threaten to commit suicide?

· Embarrass you in front of people?

· Minimize or deny being abusive?

· Abuse your children?

· Use drugs or alcohol to excuse his/her behavior?

· Control the bank accounts, credit cards, cash, etc?

· Refuse to put your name on joint assets?

· Refuse to let you work or refuse to get a job?

· Refuse to pay bills?

· Cause you to lose your job?

· Pressure or force you to have sex or do something that makes you uncomfortable or hurt?

· Accuse you of having or wanting to have sex with others?

· Threaten to discuss your relationship if you do not want it know?

· Use your children to relay negative messages or to report on you?

· Threaten to take custody or kidnap your children?

· Threaten to make false reports to DCS on you?

· Push, grab, punch or slap you?

· Kick, choke or bite you?

· Tie you up, physically restrain you or prevent you from leaving an area?

· Threaten you with a knife, gun or other weapon?

· Throw objects or destroy property?

· Disregard your needs when you are ill, injured or pregnant?


If you answered yes to any of these questions or are experiencing or have experienced, please call the Family Advocacy Program and talk with someone who understands.


             Family Advocacy Program

             P.O. Box 1841

             Collierville, TN 38027

             (901) 870-2990


             In partnership with the family violence council of collierville